Marriage Preparation Steps
Contact your parish to begin the marriage preparation process. You will have an initial meeting with a priest or deacon to establish your freedom to marry.
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The Archdiocese of Omaha requires a minimum of 6 months of preparation time before the scheduled wedding date. Most couples benefit by beginning their marriage preparation at least nine months before the wedding.
- If the bride or groom will be less than 19 years old on the date you plan to marry, a wedding date will not be set until the preparation process is complete.
- If either the bride or groom or both have previously celebrated any type of wedding whatsoever, a written decree of nullity (annulment) is required prior to registering for marriage preparation.
After an initial meeting with the priest or deacon preparing you for marriage, you will receive a link from your parish to assist you in registering for a pre-marriage inventory through FOCCUS Marriage Ministries, and assigned a facilitator.
Allow 45 – 60 minutes for completion. As soon as both of you have completed the inventory, a personalized Couple Report will be delivered to your facilitator.
You can expect to meet with your trained FOCCUS facilitator weekly for 4-6 one-hour sessions. These sessions are intended to facilitate discussion between the two of you on areas of strength and opportunities for growth identified by the FOCCUS™ Pre-Marriage Inventory. Your results and your facilitated discussion are kept confidential.
There is a $30 fee for your FOCCUS facilitation inventory. Please use the button below to register for FOCCUS.
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Couples directed to use the REFOCCUS inventory may use the button below to create their registration.
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Your parish may direct you to a Marriage Formation program to be completed 3-6 months before your wedding. These programs provide formation in the theology and practical life skills of marriage, with many options available online and in person. Costs range between $100-$200.
If your parish does not direct you to a Marriage Formation program, you may look at available options at For Your Marriage, or see below for one of our recommended options.
Catholic Engaged Encounter in Norfolk
Catholic Engaged Encounter in Omaha
Smartloving Engaged Online Marriage Preparation
Joy-Filled Marriage Online Certification Course
Catholic Marriage Fellowship Online Marriage Prep
After completing your FOCCUS sessions and formation retreat, additional wedding planning will be provided by the priest or deacon at your parish. This will include planning the Rite of Matrimony and finalizing any pastoral formation specific to the couple.
If your church parish is a Witness to Love parish, you will be given information about meeting with a mentor couple early in the process of your marriage preparation. If you are interested in meeting with a mentor couple, you should choose someone who meets the following criteria:
- Married 5 years or more in the Catholic Church
- Active in the Church
- Have a marriage and family you both admire
- Go to the same church as you do now OR attend the church you will be married at OR attend the church that you will be attending after the wedding
- Should not be immediate family members
You can invite your new mentor couple to guide you through your Marriage Formation program (SmartLoving offers free access to mentors), or Witness to Love.
Couples are highly encouraged to take an intro course from one of our many NFP providers.
Learn more here.
We recommend classes offered by:
1) Couple to Couple League
2) Marquette Model
3) Creighton FertilityCare
One of the greatest ways to prepare for the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony is to receive the gift of God’s mercy in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Contact your priest preparing you for marriage to set up a time to go to confession, or check the parish bulletin for confession times.